Dara’s lived a sheltered life with her single mom, Mellie. Now, at eighteen, she’s dreaming of more. When Dara digs up her never-before-seen birth certificate, her world implodes. Why are two strangers listed as her parents?
Dara confronts her mother, and is stunned by what she learns: Mellie is transgender. The unfamiliar name listed under “father”? That’s Mellie. She transitioned when Dara was a baby, shortly after Dara’s birth mother died.
But Dara still has more questions than answers. Reeling, she sets off on a road trip with her best guy friend, Sam. She's determined to find the extended family she’s never met. What she discovers—and what her mother reveals, piece by piece over emails—will challenge and change Dara more than she can imagine.
From rising star Jessica Verdi, this is a gorgeous, timely, and essential novel about the importance of being our true selves.
I received a copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
When her mom casually dismisses Dara's shot at achieving her dreams by providing a copy of Dara's birth certificate, she questions why and takes matters into her own hands. Her mind reveling at the what ifs, Dara doesn't expect confronting her mom will lead her to discover that her whole life is built on lie, or that the one person who has been there for everything isn't who she thought. When faced with a copy of her daughter's birth certificate and two unfamiliar names listed as parents, Dara's mom Mellie finally reveals she is transgender. Outraged at being kept in the dark, Dara gets what little information she can about her birth mother's family and sets off on a road trip with neighbor and best friend Sam to learn about from where she comes. As Dara gets closer to meeting her extended family, Mellie shares details of her story - their story - with Dara in a series of emails. Not yet ready to forgive Mellie's betrayal, Dara goes against her wishes to discover the life she could have lived. As Dara learns more about her family and her mom, she has the opportunity to make her own decision about what path her life will take. Mellie's reasoning will be obvious to readers before Dara, but for the first time in her life the ball is in Dara's court.
THOUGHTS: Mellie's story of transitioning is raw and honest and sheds some light onto an area of YA lit that is growing. Trigger warning: Mellie has her reasons for shielding herself and Dara from the extended family; their conservative viewpoints are quite obvious and sometimes extremely offensive/insensitive. And She Was will be an excellent addition for high schools looking to diversify or expand their LGBTQ+ collections.